Monday, December 31, 2007
New Year's Eve
I think my most memorable New Year's found me crashing her party. It was Jenn, her best friend Marie, and by default, me watching fireworks on the tiny tv on our dresser while drinking Martinelli's. We shared a room, so Jenn had no choice but to include me. It was like that every year. We fought a lot as kids. We had very different personalities, but were forced to share a room. She put up with a lot from her little sister. I don't know how she didn't kill me. Jenn hasn't always had the best of birthdays. One year she ended up taking care of all 7 younger kids because Mom was in bed with pneumonia. I think she was 12. Jenn has always taken care of the family.
As we've gotten older, Jenn continues to be the one who keeps the family together. She was a newlywed my freshman year at college, but her house was always open to me. I think she's done the same for everyone who's gone to BYU. Her house is always the focal point of family celebrations. Everyone is always welcome. She loves to have her house full of family. Any time we gather, it's to her home. She cooks, she cleans, she provides couches and beds and blankets and pillows, she makes us all feel like it's our home. And even when we're not there, she finds ways to make us feel like we're loved and missed and wanted. This family would not be what it is without her. We are a cohesive family as adults because of the efforts of Jennifer. She deserves every bit of the credit, and I greatly appreciate it.
We don't fight anymore. We haven't in years. I feel blessed and lucky to have her as a sister. She is an amazing example to me. She is generous and loving and talented and flat out wonderful. So tonight I will be celebrating again. She won't be here with me. We'll be separated by many hundreds of miles, but I'll raise a glass of Martinelli's and toast the birth of my big sister, the wonderful Jennifer Nielsen. I love you, Jenn. Happy Birthday.
Friday, December 28, 2007
News
Tyler has vision problems.
He came home from school a few weeks ago after a routine vision screening and they said he has problems in one eye. So I took him to get his eyes checked and he does indeed. His left eye has perfect vision. His right eye has problems.
We've actually taken him to a couple doctors already. I was rather uncomfortable with the first doctor. She didn't seem very competent. She had no idea how to deal with kids, wasn't very thorough, and wasn't even willing to state her diagnosis with any certainty. So today's appointment was a second opinion. They said basically the same things, but this second doctor seemed to check a lot more things and had a plan to help fix things, whereas the first doctor had no solutions or suggestions, just a tentative diagnosis.
His problems start with severe farsightedness. I found that interesting because we're all nearsighted. But he's farsighted, at least in the one eye. Apparently he's been farsighted for a while, but has compensated with his other eye, so it wasn't obvious. The problem is that his brain stopped using his right eye, so now it's become a lazy eye. It doesn't manifest itself the same way Rachel's did. The muscles line up and track together, so there's no crossing or obvious signs, but he's not seeing anything out of that eye. Even with a corrective lens over it, he still can't see anything but the big E on the vision chart. The eye can be forced to focus, but it's not something it wants to do or does easily.
So we start with glasses. We get the correction he needs for the weak eye. But then we add in a patch. For 6 hours a day (not during school time, or he wouldn't really be able to function) he puts a patch over his strong eye to teach his brain how to use the other eye again. The doctor seems confident that with time and correction Tyler will be able to regain a great deal of vision in his eye. He'll always be farsighted in that eye, but not necessarily to the extreme that he is now. And once his brain gets used to using that eye, the correction over the eye will actually do him some good.
This will be my second child who's had a lazy eye. But they've manifested completely differently and been for completely different reasons. I don't know what kind of time frame we're looking at for Tyler, but I hope he responds well. He's excited to get glasses (and almost walked out of the store with the frames he chose still on his face). He hoped we got to sit in the waiting room while they made them so he could have them today. Unfortunately he has to wait a week. :( But when he gets the glasses and the patch, he also gets to do things like color and play video games on doctor's orders! He's pretty excited about that too.
I'll keep you updated as I learn anything new. But for now, I'd appreciate it if you could keep him in your prayers!
Tuesday, December 25, 2007
Merry Christmas to all!
Friday, December 21, 2007
'Tis the season...
I'm going to assume every one's lives have been busy considering the distinct lack of posts lately. I haven't even checked blogs in quite some time! So I can certainly understand why no one else has posted. I'll admit, though, that I miss the women of the family, their insights, their knowledge, the ins and outs of their days. I hope after Christmas is over you will all blog on all the many wonderful things you got to do together. I can't wait to hear about it!
Today is supposed to be my day at home. We planned on having a couple kids over this afternoon to have popcorn and watch Polar Express. After a week of running around with very little time at home, I was very much looking forward to 2 hours on the couch with my kids. Alas, it was just a dream.
Yesterday, at the request of the school after a vision screening that showed problems, I took Tyler in to see an optometrist. I don't really know the results yet. She said Tyler was severely far sighted in one eye, which had resulted in a lazy eye that wasn't responding to correction. That seems odd to me because even covering up his eye with perfect vision, he can read and see things up close, which would make him near sighted. So I don't know quite what's going on yet, but we have an appointment with another doctor next week. The problem is, after the exam, Tyler's "bad" eye started oozing. There was a lot of goop coming out of it. He doesn't have the goop today, but his eye is very red, swollen and puffy. Just looking at the boy you can see a huge difference in the size of his eyes. So not only do I have to go back up town, a place I was HUGELY relieved to leave yesterday, I have to go to COSTCO. That parking lot alone is a nightmare. It was the one place I would have absolutely refused to go, had I been given a choice. Walmart, if I must; the mall, if I had something I REALLY needed; but Costco, no way. But for the sake of my son, of course I'll do it. And before I knew I'd have to do this, I offered to watch my neighbor's kids while she went out to lunch with her mom. She ended up taking her older daughter with her because she's not feeling well and she's hoping to get her in to see a doctor, but I do have Nathan. So I'm off for another adventure, braving the traffic and rude people to go get Tyler checked out, extra kid in tow!
But, the brightest spot in my week happened last night. Scott came home with flowers for me. I was shocked! Flowers are a rare occurrence at my house. And not only did he come home with flowers, but he had a reason! Yesterday was the anniversary of the day he proposed to me 13 years ago. I didn't even know he KNEW the date, let alone that he remembered or would do something for it. It was a MUCH appreciated gesture at the end of a long and difficult day. It really means a great deal to me that he would remember and do something about it. The flowers are beautiful, but the thoughtfulness is an even greater gift.
So things are busy here. On the bright side, I'm done shopping, I've shipped everything that needs to be shipped, I've received almost everything being shipped to me, and I've even wrapped almost everything that needs to be wrapped! Now if only I could find Becca's stocking... :)
Oh, and I have a piece of carrot cake cheesecake from The Cheesecake Factory just calling my name in my refrigerator right now. :D
There are always bright spots if you look for them. Maybe I'm not so cranky after all.
Tuesday, November 20, 2007
Hilary, my new hero.
According to their information sheet, there were three boys, ages 10, 14 and 16, and a girl age 19. The three boys were to be witnesses only, the 19 year old girl was the one to be sealed, and it was listed as an adoption. I was having a really difficult time coming up with a scenario to make sense with the facts I had. Of course I wanted to know the story, but was too polite to ask details when the family came in. Fortunately, with no prompting, the young woman told us her story.
This is not her "natural" family. This is the family that introduced her to the gospel. She was baptized a year ago August, and when she did so, her own family disowned her. This new family continued to love and support her. She was in the pre-med program at UW, but transferred down to Utah State and changed her major to history, which was the final straw with her family. She said to imagine the worst possible scenario in telling her already estranged parents and that might come close to how bad it was with them. So with no ties to them, she was welcomed with open arms into her "new" family. She was even adopted by them, finalized last month.
But this isn't the end of her story. While in Logan she started experiencing some tingling and numbness in her right side, as well as terrible migraines. It got so bad she ended up taking a medical leave from school and coming home to undergo tests. They were worried she was having strokes, that she might have MS, an aneurysm, or several possibilities. I don't remember the name of what she has, but the long and short of it is that her migraines are literally paralyzing her. She was, at one point, completely paralyzed on her right side. With medical intervention and physical therapy she has regained some movement, but she's a long way away from full range of motion and can't even walk on her own. She was supposed to go to a live in physical therapy place, but they wouldn't guarantee she would be able to leave to attend the temple tonight, so she said no. Even though going would have significantly reduced the amount of time it would have taken her to regain her strength and mobility, she ultimately decided traditional physical therapy would have to do. Being in the temple to be sealed to her new family was her only priority. And she didn't regret her decision for a moment. That young woman was all smiles. She was grateful for the miracles that had gotten her to that point. She was amazing.
As were her new parents. They love that girl. They feel privileged to be a part of her life. They don't care about the physical problems, the medical bills, or even paying for college for one more than they planned for, years before they expected. She IS their daughter to them and they feel blessed to have her. Standing in that sealing room, seeing that family standing together newly sealed, 2 loving parents, a grateful daughter, and three boys so excited to have a brand new sister, I couldn't help but be grateful I was blessed enough to witness that miracle.
Thursday, November 15, 2007
You've got to be kidding me
Sunday, November 04, 2007
Tagged, and not happy about it.
Where did you meet your husband?
Dad was teaching Institute, so in the summer between high school and college, I went to that class. Scott was also attending.
What was the first thing you said to your husband?
I don't remember. It was 13 years ago and I had no idea I'd marry him at the time! Our first conversation was trying to figure out how I knew him. It ended with "Oh, you're THAT Scott..." The first thing I said to him when I came back from college was "Hey, I know a friend of yours..." Thanks Devin.
Where was your first date?
We got an ice cream cone (Daiquiri Ice) at the Kitsap Mall, then went to see Forrest Gump, then to Red Robin for dinner after the movie.
Where was your first kiss?
Now you're making me tell on myself. In Scott's old Corsica in front of the movie theater.
Did you have a long or short courtship/engagement?
Hee hee. I don't think you could get much shorter. We were engaged before we even got to dinner on our first date. That was in December 20th. I went back to BYU the first of the year, came home the last day of April, and we got married July 22nd.
Where did you get engaged?
This isn't going to make Scott look very good. In his car in the Red Robin parking lot. Yes, that is why we go back there for our anniversary most years. That and we both love their fries and ranch dressing.
Where were you married?
In the Seattle temple. July 22, 1995.
How did your reception go?
As far as I know it went well. I don't remember anything going wrong. But then, I showed up to enjoy the party. I didn't do any of the work that day. We did have an issue when setting up the night before. Scott forgot to arrange for the lattice archway we wanted to stand under, so we weren't sure we were going to have it. Fortunately for him he was able to track it down and get it there.
How was your honeymoon?
Wonderful. We went to Cannon Beach, Oregon. It was only three nights, and it was rather cold, but it was still great. I think we mostly remember the food. We still talk about the dinner we had at the Stephanie Inn.
Whose turn is it next?
I think I'll go with Deborah, Amber, and Laura Lee if they'll do it!
Tuesday, October 30, 2007
It's the best of both worlds
Monday, October 29, 2007
Into the Woods
Tuesday, October 09, 2007
Good Morning!
Saturday, October 06, 2007
Conference
I love Elder Eyring being put into the First Presidency!
Wednesday, October 03, 2007
What a week!
Becca outside on the ferry. She almost got blown away!
Becca and Grandma in front of the little bridge at the lake house.
My arms aren't as long as Jenn's, but I think it's not a bad self portrait. :)
Saturday, September 29, 2007
Pure Joy
Before the actual baptism, I had the opportunity to introduce her and talk about how wonderful she is. That alone was wonderful. She just glowed the entire time. She had family and friends there to support her, many of whom brought her gifts. She carried around her new scriptures in the cool pink bag from Grandma and Grandpa Texas the entire day, and I don't think she took off her CTR mood ring even to go to bed. The entire experience was smooth and perfect. Nothing went wrong at any point in our morning, and the meeting itself was great. She did have to be put under twice because her foot came up the first time (the whole foot, not just a toe), but she didn't mind at all. She reminded me I had to do it three times. Plus the water was warm, so she liked being in it. The look on her face as she came out of the font was one I will never forget. It was pure joy, and it exactly echoed how I felt.
I really like that we wait to baptize our children until they're 8. This was a decision Rachel made. She wanted to do it. I can't imagine seeing an infant baptized has nearly the same power as watching your child, who's old enough to know for herself, choose to be baptized into the church you hold dear and precious. She chose this, and it means that much more knowing it was her choice.
I'm sure this was a wonderful day for Rachel, but this is my blog, not hers. Today I got to see my daughter get baptized into the kingdom. It was definitely one of the greatest days of my life.
Monday, September 17, 2007
To stitch or not to stitch...
Friday, September 14, 2007
EEK!
(Becca holding Goldie, Rachel's new puppy.)
Wednesday, September 12, 2007
Rachel
Tuesday, September 11, 2007
Working Family
A man in the Elders Quorum presidency with Scott has a company that puts up signs for housing developments. You know, the ones that say "This development this way" with a big arrow kind of thing. They go up on Friday nights and need to come down again Sunday nights. Gary was looking for someone to take over a couple routes, so we jumped at the chance. We took the middle seat out of our van to have room for the signs, then we load all three kids in the back seat and head out. I do the driving and Scott does the placing and picking up. At first it took us about 6 1/2 hours to do the placing, but we've brought that down to 4 1/2, and I think we can get even faster. Picking up has gone from 4 1/2 hours to 3 1/2, but we're getting faster there too. We have just over 200 signs between the two routes we have, and it pays $1 a sign, so for 8-10 hours of work in a weekend, we earn $200. The kids get paid for coming along with us, as well as for loading, unloading, and sorting signs. It's been a fun little job for us so far, and that extra $800 a month is going to be a huge boost to our budget. And we get to do it as a family!
Wednesday, September 05, 2007
At Last
Tuesday, September 04, 2007
And the wait continues...
UPDATE:
The contract was ratified with 84% in favor. We will be starting school tomorrow!!
Funny!
I also put her blog up in my links to the other blogs I read. I hope you enjoy her as much as I do!
Power
Wednesday, August 29, 2007
My yearly torture...
Oh, and as soon as I'm done with my canning, I'll be pulling out my dehydrator so I can get to work on beef jerky, onion flakes, and other herbs and produce... Why oh why do I torture myself like this?
STRIKE! STRIKE! STRIKE!
Tuesday, August 14, 2007
When it rains...
When Scott was mowing the back yard on Saturday, the lawn mower shot out a small pebble and it hit the stationary piece next to our sliding glass door, shattering it. Fortunately it's double paned so we don't have to fix it right this second, but we do need to replace it. The glass didn't fall out right away, it stayed all spiderweb like in the frame for a day or so. All afternoon it crackled and crinkled as the glass continued to break more and more. It was kind of a cool sound, and fun to watch new "webs" form on the glass. Of course that didn't last and eventually glass pieces started falling to the ground. I spent a good hour cleaning up the glass yesterday, getting it off the ground and knocking the last of it out of the frame. We're getting estimates on repairs this week, so hopefully we'll get it fixed soon.
Oh, and the starter on my van is going out.
Tuesday, August 07, 2007
Catch up... again.
I feel like my entire life is spent doing catch up sometimes. For those who want to know, here are the highlights of my past few weeks:
- Someone tried to break into my van by breaking in a window while we were at a concert in the park a couple weeks ago. Fortunately the safety film on it held so they didn't actually get IN my car, but we still obviously had to have it replaced. It actually held for a few days, then blew out unexpectedly while driving to the library. My kids thought it was hilarious. Fortunately it blew OUT of the car, not in.
- A couple weeks later, at the same park, Rachel's purse got stolen right off our blanket. We were playing in the wading pool, and it was there with all our other stuff. It was the only thing taken. She was heartbroken. We're not sure we're going back to that park anymore, even if it is where the concerts in the park my kids love so much are held. (By the way, the concert that afternoon was Taylor Ware, the yodeling girl from America's Got Talent. She was darling, and very good.)
- My kids got to go bowling for the first time ever a couple weeks ago. It was awesome! Bumpers came up automatically for the kids then went back down for the grown ups, and they even had a cool little ramp the kids could slide their balls down to give them more momentum. That ramp was a life saver. The first few balls Becca sent down the lane went excruciatingly slowly. Even SHE got bored of watching it, and there was one that didn't even go the whole way. It got stuck in the pins. But once we found that, the kids' scores went way up and they had much more fun. Of course Rachel was too old for that kind of thing and did just fine on her own, beating me in all 3 games. She also had the bumpers, but that's beside the point. :D
- Scott and I celebrated our anniversary a couple weeks ago. I can't believe it's been 12 years already!
- Scott and I and some friends went to a great club called the Triple Door last weekend. It had great food, and the entertainment was fantastic. We'll definitely go back.
- We made it (EARLY) to 9:00 church in Mill Creek (north of Bothell!!) on Sunday to be there when Devin Williams blessed his baby on Sunday. It was so nice to see them again.
- We finally decided to have our septic tank pumped this week for the first time in 5 years and found our pump had gone out. It turned into this whole ordeal. Instead of being an hour long, $300 job, it was a 2 day, $3,000 job. Fortunately the pump went out recently, or we would have had sewage backing up into the house. We're lucky it was caught when it was.
- I'm on my third medication for my insomnia, and it's working fine without all the weird side effects the others gave me, but I worry about the dependency rate and withdrawal problems of it. I talked to a friend who's on another medication in the same family of drugs, but it has a much lower risk of dependency, and it doesn't have withdrawal symptoms, so I'm going to ask my doctor if I can be switched to that one instead.
- We had a fantastic Activity Days activity at my house last week. A couple weeks ago we had a lesson on the Word of Wisdom. Last week we put it into action by making a meal together that was based on what we're told we should be eating. The girls had so much fun, and the dinner was really yummy! We had spaghetti with home made sauce full of fresh herbs and just enough garlic, home made meatballs, a really great salad filled with lots of yummy stuff, and home made bread sticks. The girls had the most fun forming the bread sticks. None of them had ever done it before! For dessert we did my crock pot peach cobbler and home made ice cream. I'm not sure how I'm going to top this activity.
- I finally got my eyes checked out for the first time in a few years. I'll be getting new glasses and contacts in a couple weeks!
Hippo Birdie to Ewe...
I love you Mom!
Thursday, July 19, 2007
Let's try again...
Monday, July 16, 2007
She's awesome!
Tuesday, July 10, 2007
Now THIS is summer
We're expected to hit temps in triple digits tomorrow. Rare for us.
Friday, July 06, 2007
Better than I thought...
Wednesday, July 04, 2007
My favorite lesson!
One man with courage makes a majority. - Andrew Jackson
Tuesday, July 03, 2007
I need a nap...
I taught Relief Society again on Sunday. It went really well. I'll try to post some of my favorite quotes from my studies tomorrow. They'll be appropriate for the day.
Monday, June 25, 2007
It's a small world after all...
He happened to call while I was there and asked my maiden name. When he heard it, he immediately went into stories of scouting with Ben. I just had to laugh. You never know who you'll run into or what distant memory will suddenly turn up in your ward! I was just going to help a woman alone with her move, and suddenly I'm taken on a trip into my past. This is weirder to me than driving down Meridian and having Alan Cleaver driving right behind me.
Sunday, June 24, 2007
Catch Up
1. Tyler had his birthday party on Saturday afternoon. It was the easiest one I've ever put on, and he loved every minute of it. He looked so handsome in his new church clothes from Grammy and Grampy today! (picture to come)
2. I got my first "excellent!" out of my piano teacher on Saturday afternoon. He was very pleased with how far I'd come on a song we've been working on. That was really exciting for me.
3. I badly twisted my ankle Saturday night and can hardly walk.
4. We had a storm come through here this afternoon. I LOVED it. The colors in the clouds were amazing (as were the greens of the trees against the dark sky) and I've come to love thunder and lightening. I'm so glad my kids love storms too. They ran around, loving every second nearly as much as I did.
5. I still don't love my new medication. I'm still having side effects, but not as severe as with the other one. But I'm not sleeping as well either. I'm leaning towards forgetting meds all together and just suffering through my insomnia, but I'll talk to my doctor once more before I make that decision.
6. I have about 10 loads of laundry that need to be folded. My kids are finally out of school for the summer. I'm supposed to be at Activity Girls Day Camp on Tuesday and Wednesday, but I'm still not sure if I can make it. I promised to help a new woman in our ward unpack tomorrow since she has 2 small kids and her husband is out of town. Scott is going out of town for the weekend with his dad and brothers. I'm having a fondue party one night he's gone (Jenn, I could use some help on this!). What happened to the LAZY days of summer?
That's about it for me for now!
Wednesday, June 20, 2007
TYLER
In honor of Tyler's 6th birthday, I thought I'd take a moment and write down a few of the things I love about my son.
1. He loves a good joke.
2. He's smart as a whip.
3. He has a sensitive spirit.
4. He loves to learn.
5. He's concerned with people around him, and wants everyone to be happy.
6. He makes sure he acknowledges as many people he can, and doesn't leave anyone out.
7. He wants to be just like his daddy.
8. He's a great soccer goalie.
9. He's willing to compromise in order to keep the peace.
10. He is so proud of himself when he learns something new.
11. He loves to ask questions.
12. He'll tell his life story to anyone who will listen, or at least anything interesting that's happened to him recently.
13. He has an amazing imagination.
14. He wants to be in the middle of whatever is going on.
15. He saved his tooth fairy money for more than 2 weeks until the ice cream man came to our neighborhood because there was no question but that he was going to buy ice cream from him.
16. He loves to help Daddy barbecue.
17. He gets super excited over little things.
18. He's been telling people the countdown to his birthday since June 1st.
19. He's so ready to be a grown up.
20. He wears his heart on his sleeve.
21. He thinks school is the best thing EVER!
22. He does a great "ready Freddy" ball catching position.
23. He finds humor in the inane, just like his dad.
24. He likes his hair spiky.
25. He is quick to smile and laugh.
There is so much more I could say about my wonderful son, but for now I'll stop and just say HAPPY BIRTHDAY TYLER! I LOVE YOU!!
Monday, June 18, 2007
Enough
In general I think antidepressants are a great thing and a much needed help for a lot of people, but I don't think it's what I need, at least not right now. Fortunately I have an appointment this afternoon to talk to my doctor about this. Hopefully I come back with good news!
UPDATE:
Of course my doctor immediately took me off the offending medication I was on. She was amazed I stayed as long as I did on it. She'd never seen it cause anxiety to the degree I had it. It is a known side effect of the drug, but a very very rare one. She's given me something new to try instead, but is starting me on just half a dose for now. It'll also take a few days to come down off the old medication, but within a week I should be feeling MUCH better. If I don't, she wants to see me again. I didn't sleep quite as well on the new medication, but I woke up already feeling a bit less anxiety. Not a lot, but some. And every little bit helps. And once the old medication is out of my system, I can increase my new one to a full dose if I'm not sleeping enough. So things should be getting much better!
Thursday, June 14, 2007
By request
Mel is quite talented at self portraits. :)
We took off our gloves to eat dinner.
I thought this was pretty cool...
One thing I don't have in my emergency supplies is a way to cook. I don't even have a camp stove. Last night I learned about a really simple and easy way to solve that problem. You need just 4 things; an empty gallon size paint can, an empty quart size paint can, a quart of rubbing alcohol, and a roll of toilet paper. You smush the toilet paper to get it through the hole in the smaller paint can, then pour the entire bottle of rubbing alcohol into it. It'll take a little time for the toilet paper to absorb it, but it will take the entire bottle of alcohol. You then seal the paint can. Punch holes in the larger can around the top and bottom (for ventilation) then seal the smaller can inside the larger one. When it comes time to use it, open up both cans, put the smaller can onto the lid of the larger can, light the alcohol, then cover it with the larger can to give you a cooking surface. Apparently it's hot enough to boil water within half an hour. The heat coming through the holes punched in it is enough to warm you, and to roast pretty much anything you might toast over a fire. It lasts 6-8 hours, and can be replenished just by adding more rubbing alcohol. How easy is that? And if you have the storage space for just a can of paint, you have a makeshift stove!